Empowering Boys Through Mentorship
Reconnecting boys with positive male role models to build a stronger, healthier society.
The Problem: Disconnection of Boys and Men
Cultural Exclusion
Western culture today excludes men and boys from bonding, emphasizing safety and cold professionalism over necessary risk and warm humanity.
Mythology of Bad Men
Society perpetuates a myth that men other than fathers who become close to boys are inherently bad, limiting positive male influences.
Occupied Space
Women are pushed into all roles with boys, while men are pushed out, preventing natural mentorship opportunities.
Co-gendered Spaces
The lack of male-only spaces prevents men and boys from bonding, hindering the natural progression of male socialization.
The Consequences of Male Disconnection
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Mal-socialization
Boys grow up without proper socialization, lacking agency and experiencing emotional pain.
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Lashing Out
Frustrated and disconnected, boys may act out against family and society.
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Damaged Men
These boys grow into damaged men, perpetuating the cycle of distrust and isolation.
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Broken Transmission
The historical transmission of knowledge and skills from men to boys is severely limited or broken.
The Importance of Male Bonding
Natural Affinity
Boys have always looked up to men based on a deep mutual affinity. This connection is crucial for healthy development and socialization.
Moderating Influence
Bonding with other men provides a moderating influence on boys' natural risk-taking behaviors, helping to guide them towards healthy expressions of masculinity.
Knowledge Transfer
Mentorship of boys by other men has long been crucial to facilitate the transfer of deep knowledge, skills, and life experience from one generation to the next.
Critical Age for Male Bonding
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Early Years (Age 0-6)
Father's role is critical in teaching likeable behavior, setting the foundation for future mentoring relationships.
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Transition (Age 6-10)
Boys need to be encouraged to bond with men other than their fathers, alongside other boys, expanding their circle of male influence.
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Adolescence and Beyond
Deeper mentorship from other men as role models is essential to guide boys through the challenges of growing up and becoming men.
The Current State of Boys
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Isolation
Boys are increasingly isolated from positive male influences, leading to a lack of guidance and support.
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Feminization
Society's push for gender neutrality often results in the feminization of boys, neglecting their unique needs and experiences.
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Surveillance Culture
Constant monitoring and overprotection hinder boys' natural development and risk-taking behaviors.
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Digital Addiction
Boys are increasingly addicted to social media and digital content, lacking real-world experiences and connections.
The Impact on Male Development
Cognitive Development
Lack of male mentorship can hinder problem-solving skills and critical thinking abilities.
Emotional Growth
Without positive male role models, boys may struggle to understand and express their emotions healthily.
Physical Well-being
Reduced outdoor activities and male-led physical pursuits can lead to poor health and fitness.
Social Skills
Limited close bonding with diverse male figures results in underdeveloped social and interpersonal skills.
The Solution: Enabling Mentorship
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Create Male Spaces
Establish and support dedicated spaces for men and boys to interact, both online and in-person.
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Outdoor Culture
Develop a culture of outdoor activities and adventures shared between men and boys.
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Brotherhood Ethos
Instill an ethos of tolerant and friendly brotherhood among Western males.
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Encourage Learning
Promote learning, reading, research, and tackling difficult problems by boys, under the mentorship of other men.
Cultural Changes Needed
Encourage Bonding
Parents should actively encourage boys to bond with other men, fostering trust and positive relationships.
Emphasize Humanity
Shift focus from cold professionalism to warm, genuine human connections in mentoring relationships.
Support Male Spaces
Encourage and support public and private male-only spaces without placing blame or stigma on detractors.
Normalize Male Interactions
Promote understanding that unrelated men and boys of different ages spending time together is necessary and beneficial.
Legal Changes for Male Mentorship
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Gender-Specific Spaces
Allow any private or public property to be designated for one gender only, with repercussions for intentional infringement.
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Defend Friendships
Give boys and men the legal right to defend mentoring relationships through a community jury of men.
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Right to Befriend
Establish men's right to befriend or be familiar with boys, unless deemed a bad influence by a jury of men.
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Custody Rights
Prioritize equal custody for fathers of boys under six, and prioritize the father's custody for boys over six.
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Community Juries
Implement community juries of men to handle all criminal or civil conflicts (such as a fight) in male spaces with the option to vote for law enforcement involvement.
Our Online Mentoring Platform
Connect
Our platform connects boys and men with positive male role models and boys seeking mentorship respectively, creating a space for male mentorship and growth.
Learn
Mentors can easily set up dedicated classrooms, tutoring, or coaching programs on our platform to share knowledge and skills, and start fixing our society in a small way now.
Grow
As our community grows, we will be able to build a larger scale cultural and legal change to fix these critical problems faced by western boys and men, with your support.
Building a New Community
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Online Community
Start with our online platform to connect mentors and mentees - boys and men -while building a supportive network.
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Gather Supporters
Grow a community of like-minded individuals committed to healthy masculinity and mentorship.
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Create a New Town
We are partnered with Exit City to establish a new town with new laws supporting these cultural values.
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Expand and Influence
We will use our successes as an example to influence other communities and promote wider scale distributed societal change.
Exit City Partnership
What is Exit City?
Exit City is a platform run by Charter City experts that creates new cities in the global south for unique communities with specific values and laws.
How does the partnership work?
Exit City helps us design our community program and negotiate with a global south country government to establish a new town with laws supporting healthy masculinity and mentorship.
What are the benefits?
This partnership allows us to create a physical space where our values can be fully implemented, serving as a real-world example of the positive impact of male mentorship on society.
Join Our Community
Monthly Subscription
For just $11 per month, you will be a community member helping achieve this vision, and gain access to our online mentoring platform.
Mentorship Opportunities
Set up your own classroom, tutoring, or coaching program to mentor boys and make a positive impact.
Exclusive Community
Connect with like-minded individuals committed to fostering healthy masculinity and mentorship.
Future City Planning
Be part of the planning and development of our new town, shaping a community that values male bonding.
Community Guidelines
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Positive Environment
Discourage bad language, unhealthy behavior, and negativity. Promote respectful and constructive interactions.
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Age-Appropriate Interactions
Ensure all interactions are healthy considering age gaps, fostering friendly familiarity without crossing boundaries.
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Focus on Core Values
When discussing potentially controversial topics (politics and religion), maintain focus on our main values and purpose of mentorship and male bonding.
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Confidentiality
Respect the privacy of the community by not sharing group content with non-members, including family and friends.
The Importance of Male-Only Spaces
Natural Bonding
Male-only spaces allow for natural, uninhibited bonding between men and boys, fostering genuine connections.
Shared Experiences
These spaces provide opportunities for shared experiences and activities that are particularly meaningful to males.
Open Communication
Men and boys only feel comfortable discussing certain topics and being themselves in the sole presence of males.
Addressing Concerns
Are male-only spaces healthy for boys?
Yes, our community emphasizes necessary risk only while promoting genuine human connections. We have guidelines and processes in place to be realistic, human, & keep things beneficial.
How do you screen mentors?
Mentors are expected to align with our values and guidelines, and where they do not may be removed. Our platform allows for transparent interactions and feedback.
What if there's a problem?
We have a community jury system to address any concerns or conflicts, aiming for fair and appropriate resolution while maintaining our focus on positive mentorship and accepting minimum necessary risk.
Benefits of Male Mentorship
Improved Self-Esteem
Positive male role models help boys develop confidence and a strong sense of self-worth.
Knowledge Transfer
Mentors pass down valuable skills, wisdom, and life experiences to the younger generation.
Guidance
Boys receive direction and support in navigating life's challenges and making important decisions.
Expanded Network
Mentorship introduces boys to a wider circle of positive influences and potential future opportunities.
Outdoor Activities and Male Bonding
Camping Adventures
Camping trips provide excellent opportunities for men and boys to bond while learning survival skills and appreciating nature.
Hiking and Exploration
Hiking adventures foster teamwork, perseverance, and a sense of accomplishment while enjoying the great outdoors.
Fishing Expeditions
Fishing trips offer quiet moments for conversation and teaching, as well as exciting catches that build shared memories.
Encouraging Reading and Learning
Book Exchanges
Establish male-only book exchanges where mentors and mentees can share and discuss literature, fostering a love for reading and critical thinking.
Skill Workshops
Organize workshops where men can teach boys various skills, from woodworking to coding, encouraging hands-on learning.
Research Projects
Mentor-guided research projects allow boys to explore subjects of interest deeply, developing analytical and presentation skills.
Building and Achieving Together
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Project Planning
Mentors guide boys through the process of planning and organizing projects, teaching valuable life skills.
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Hands-on Work
Men and boys work side-by-side on projects, fostering a sense of accomplishment and teamwork.
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Problem Solving
Tackling challenges together helps boys develop critical thinking and resilience.
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Celebration
Completing projects provides opportunities to celebrate achievements and build self-esteem.
Tackling Advanced Problems
STEM Challenges
Engage boys in advanced science, technology, engineering, and math problems with guidance from experienced mentors.
Entrepreneurship
Encourage boys to develop business ideas and plans, with mentors providing real-world insights and support.
Debate and Philosophy
Introduce boys to complex ideas and teach them how to articulate and defend their thoughts in a supportive environment.
Creative Projects
Challenge boys to tackle ambitious artistic or creative endeavors, pushing their boundaries with mentor guidance.
The Role of Fathers
Foundation of Trust
Fathers play the determinant role of teaching boys to behave in a likeable manner, setting the stage for future mentoring and all relationships.
Primary Role Model
As the primary male figure, fathers provide the first example of masculinity and male behavior for their sons.
Bridge to Other Mentors
Fathers must support their sons to form close relationships with other male role models.
Addressing Single Mother Households
How can boys without fathers benefit?
Our community facilitate close male role models and mentor relationships which are crucial to any boy's healthy development. Without these most boys suffer tremendously, while hiding it from mothers.
What about mothers' concerns?
We understand mothers' protective instincts. We encourage mothers to prioritize their son's well being in a society where mothers have been prioritized as decision makers over boys in place of fathers.
Can mothers participate?
Mothers generally need to maintain a largely hands off approach to boys, male only spaces, and relationships between men and boys, and avoid getting into these, besides objectively holding their son to decent standards at home.
Measuring Success
Testimonials
Jake, 14 years old
"Having a mentor has changed my life. I've learned so much and feel more confident about my future. It's great to have someone to talk to who really understands."
Michael, Mentor
"Being a mentor is incredibly rewarding. Watching these boys grow and develop into confident young men gives me a sense of purpose and hope for the future."
Sandra, Single Mother
"I was hesitant at first, but seeing the positive change in my son since he joined this community has been amazing. He's more confident and motivated than ever."
Future Vision
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Expand Online Platform
Grow our digital community to reach more mentors and mentees worldwide.
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Establish New Town
Create our first physical community dedicated to healthy masculinity and mentorship.
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Influence Policy
Use our success to advocate for legal and cultural changes supporting male mentorship.
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Global Network
Develop a worldwide network of communities dedicated to fostering positive male relationships.
Stay Informed: Research
Stay up-to-date with the latest research and news on boys' development and mentorship. Our community features articles, blog posts, and resources from experts in the field.
Explore articles like Why All Teenagers Need Non-Parent Mentors, which highlights the importance of mentoring relationships for all boys.
News
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